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Have you heard about Missy Kuester?

Hi, I’m Missy Kuester. I never quite fit in. In high school I was never popular, however I was funny and outgoing. Fast forward to many years later, my husband and I were at our first Air Force duty station. Suddenly, I felt like I was back in high school, I didn’t quite fit in. I tried to be someone other who I already was and got caught up in comparing myself to others. I longed to belong to a group. Then a friend with 15 years more experience than me asked why I was hanging out with her and a bunch of old ladies. As I told her, I wanted to be more like them, confident and experienced. I wanted to absorb all the information I could. Above all, I wanted to fit in. She assured me that who people needed was exactly who I was. From that point on, I have tried to be authentic and true to myself, something that is not easy in the military world full of its rituals and customs.

More than just a military wife…

While 23 years as a military wife has given me a variety of experiences and lessons, I am so much more. I am a good friend who just wants everyone in a room to feel like they belong and that their uniqueness is what we need. I have moved a lot so I know what it’s like to be the new person and I have a knack for finding the new person in the room. In addition, I am a wife and mother who has messed up. My personal stories and experiences may make you feel better as a wife and mother. What I want you to know is that you are not alone. While I may have advice it’s not because I have always done things right but rather because sometimes, I wish I would have done it differently.

Why you should listen to me?

It took nearly all my life to realize that way back in high school, I was a social chameleon. I didn’t fit in because I didn’t belong to any one group. Today, it’s a trait that makes me able to relate to a variety of people. I want to break the stereotypes of being a military officer’s spouse, a Christian, or a stay-at-home mom who desperately wants to see her dog become famous. My collection of friends is diverse and I wouldn’t wish for it to be any other way. In a way, I believe people appreciate my authenticity and suddenly I find that I am not such an outcast.

This blog is just a place for me to share my stories, advice, and flubs. My goal is to be funny, authentic and non-judgmental. I want you to come to this blog and leave knowing that you are not alone and are appreciated for being you. You can expect my own personal stories as well as quotes, scriptures and stories I have found. So, come sit by me and let’s build a community that is safe and full of different people. I hope you will even share your thoughts, stories, quotes and blogs.



  1. Pam Grace says:

    I just love you for who you are! You make me smile and I can’t wait to see what you write. ❤️😊

  2. Jenn says:

    You, my beautiful friend, are authentic and as real as they come! As to why I gravitated to you when we met. And to think our friendship story started over our kids lunchboxes and a dirty tarp! Good times! Keep being you, my love! 😘

  3. Jennifer Jacks says:

    Best day of my life! Your wisdom and love will be greatly valued! Everyone needs a Missy Kuester in their life. ❤️

  4. Laura Farish says:

    I’m so excited to hear your stories! You are all of the things you described and that is why I love you!

  5. Vicky says:

    This is what I’ve been waiting for! I have always been thankful that Crash introduced us years ago. One day, I know our paths will cross again . Looking forward to more “Missy”

  6. Pat Miles says:

    You are awesome Missy. Love the idea of your blog. Perhaps reading your blog will keep me from missing you so much, but I doubt it😎. Looking forward to your posts. Stay well❤️

  7. Olivier says:

    A blog is a great place to express yourself and it can be encouraging to many. I think this is a great idea, and I cannot wait to read your articles.

  8. Elaine Johnson says:

    You have made an impact on my life since Day 1. Who else calls me Colleen? Who else brings an extra pashmina to an event because she thought I might get cold? (And I did and I used it). Who else do I admire for all her incredible traits and yet she says I’m her mentor? I love you Missy Kuester. Go share your beautiful self with the world.

  9. Judy Meyer says:

    I am so excited for you. You are a breath of fresh air and so darned entertaining and godly woman too. We older ladies love that you love us too.

  10. Liza says:

    I have always loved your sense of humor and can’t wait to hear more of your stories, advice, antidotes, or whatever you have on your mind!

  11. Kathy says:

    Missy, you’re an amazing lady. I’m truly blessed having met you and getting to know you. Thank you for being your authentic self.

  12. You speak my language and that’s why I love you! I’m so glad you’re doing this and I look forward to following your blog journey! I may just dust off my keyboard and start writing along with you. You’re awesome and I’m proud of you!

  13. Lisa Parnell says:

    You have a spark – a magnetism – that draws people to you, my friend. You have much to offer us all, and I’m privileged to be able to share in your friendship and life’s stories.

  14. Brenda Will says:

    Hey Missy! It has been way too many years since I’ve seen your happy face. Thank you for being authentic and sharing your story. Other people’s stories always cause me to grow. I connect with the authentic part. I am still working on totally being authentic. I’m not sure I will ever fit in but I’ve learned that that’s okay too. Love you girl….:)

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