Hi, I’m Missy Kuester. I never quite fit in. In high school I was never popular, however I was funny and outgoing. Fast forward to many years later, my husband and I were at our first Air Force duty station. Suddenly, I felt like I was back in high school, I didn’t quite fit in. I tried to be someone other who I already was and got caught up in comparing myself to others. I longed to belong to a group. Then a friend with 15 years more experience than me asked why I was hanging out with her and a bunch of old ladies. As I told her, I wanted to be more like them, confident and experienced. I wanted to absorb all the information I could. Above all, I wanted to fit in. She assured me that who people needed was exactly who I was. From that point on, I have tried to be authentic and true to myself, something that is not easy in the military world full of its rituals and customs.
More than just a military wife…
While 23 years as a military wife has given me a variety of experiences and lessons, I am so much more. I am a good friend who just wants everyone in a room to feel like they belong and that their uniqueness is what we need. I have moved a lot so I know what it’s like to be the new person and I have a knack for finding the new person in the room. In addition, I am a wife and mother who has messed up. My personal stories and experiences may make you feel better as a wife and mother. What I want you to know is that you are not alone. While I may have advice it’s not because I have always done things right but rather because sometimes, I wish I would have done it differently.
Why you should listen to me?
It took nearly all my life to realize that way back in high school, I was a social chameleon. I didn’t fit in because I didn’t belong to any one group. Today, it’s a trait that makes me able to relate to a variety of people. I want to break the stereotypes of being a military officer’s spouse, a Christian, or a stay-at-home mom who desperately wants to see her dog become famous. My collection of friends is diverse and I wouldn’t wish for it to be any other way. In a way, I believe people appreciate my authenticity and suddenly I find that I am not such an outcast.
This blog is just a place for me to share my stories, advice, and flubs. My goal is to be funny, authentic and non-judgmental. I want you to come to this blog and leave knowing that you are not alone and are appreciated for being you. You can expect my own personal stories as well as quotes, scriptures and stories I have found. So, come sit by me and let’s build a community that is safe and full of different people. I hope you will even share your thoughts, stories, quotes and blogs.