In the words of The Rolling Stones in their song titled, Sympathy For The Devil, “Allow me to introduce myself.” In the case of this blog, allow me to introduce myself…again. I am Missy Kuester and I run this site, not well or often enough but nonetheless its mine and I can do what I …
Military Spouse Appreciation Day: feelings on a shelf
Today happens to be Military Spouse Appreciation Day. I was a military spouse for 24 plus years. It was the greatest honor and the greatest burden. It may sound cynical, but my goal was always to bring attention and improve the lives of military spouses. After my husband’s retirement he was gainfully employed and during …
What I will remember from that day
That day is cancer day. The day we found out our middle son had testicular cancer. What I will remember from that day… It was February 18th. It was towards the end of my day, but my son was on my mind. I knew he was going to the urologist. I was standing in a …
Sermon: Compassion and Enoughness
Recently I shared the message about compassion and our enoughness at our church, First Presbyterian Church in Logan, Utah. https://firstpreslogan.com/ The passage was based on the scripture Matthew 14:13-21 (NRSVue). https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+14%3A13-21&version=NRSVUE It was an honor to share the message. If you would like to watch it please see the attached link. https://www.youtube.com/live/1OsIJyZU5ow?si=b1OjdMQ9lk9XI_2S I don’t know if I’ll …
Looking back: 50 thoughts for my 50th birthday
Rascal Flatt’s, the country music trio sings a song titled, Life is a Highway. I agree. It makes a wonderful metaphor for life. The old adage is to not look back because you’re not going that way. While the sentiment is an attempt to inspire us to keep moving forward, I tend to disagree. I believe …
The prayer road has potholes
I just got back from a quick walk with my dogs, the ones that smell like a skunk. We walked down the gravel road near my house. In the past I have referred to this as The Prayer Road because I have walked hundreds of miles on this road while saying my prayers. (https://missykuester.com/walking-the-prayer-road-each-morning/) Today, …
An evening with the grandfather I never knew
I recently had an amazing dream, the kind you don’t want to wake up from. I dreamt I enjoyed an evening with the grandfather I never knew. My grandfather Rea (pronounced Ray) died in 1961 at the age of 51. My father was just a teenager when his father died while returning from vacation. They …
It’s the small things in life that add up
Mother Teresa is credited with saying, ““We cannot all do great things, but we can do small things with great love.” Recently my friend, Angie, called and we caught up. She said she had come here to my blog and noticed I hadn’t posted anything in a while. Of course, I gave her the excuses …
Creating and holding space for grieving people
Recently, I shared a post about my work in the funeral industry. You can read that post here: https://missykuester.com/a-nonanxious-presence-in-a-funeral-home/. One question I often get is “What do you do at the funeral home?” I could list the actual physical things such as greeting visitors, restocking the snacks and drinks, moving flowers, driving the hearse, driving the …
A nonanxious presence in a funeral home
“How people die remains in the memory of those who live on” – Dame Cicely Saunders. In July of 2021, I saw a Facebook post about a newly opened funeral home. Nearly a year later, that post changed the trajectory of my life. That day I mustered up the courage to send a message to …